It’s Time to Talk About Sex after Menopause


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The Women’s Health Foundation wants us to shout it from the rooftops:

It’s time to talk about sex after menopause!

 Learn more about their campaign here.  (Bloggers, they especially want your support).

Missy Lavender, founder and executive director of the Women’s Health Foundation, gives us this advice about having those conversations:

It’s a question I get asked all the time — how do I broach the subject of sex after menopause with my health care provider?

 First, I tell women they’re not alone in needing some answers, but I know starting the dialogue can be difficult.

Dr. Corrado Altomare, the Vice President of US Medical Affairs at Shionogi Inc., a Women’s Health Foundation partner, recently wrote a blog on our website about techniques for starting the conversation.  He suggests opening with something like, “Is it normal for…” as a prelude to your question.  

Ask about hot flashes, painful intercourse or weight gain.

 Then end the discussion with another question, “Is there anything I can do about it?”

 If you’re afraid, try rehearsing your questions, or write them down and hand them to your health care provider.  

Always use your own words and don’t be compelled to use confusing medical jargon.  

I bet you’ll be surprised by the results.  Most doctors know it’s uncomfortable to talk about sex and often wait for patients to bring up the subject.  

So, don’t be afraid!  Commit to having that conversation today!

Me again: Here are ways we can support the Women’s Health Foundation in the campaign:

1)     Share this video, featuring menopause experts such as Dr. Susan Kellogg-Spadt, CRNP, PhD and Dr. Lauren Streicher, about the campaign and the importance of talking to your provider about sex after menopause,

2)      Sign up via the crowdspeaking platform Thunderclap and commit to having “the conversation.”

3)      Leverage your social voice via Twitter, Facebook, and/or Tumblr and encourage your friends and followers to do the same – below are some sample tweets/posts:

The campaign kicked off on Independence Day, to celebrate the sense of freedom and empowerment the foundation hopes women will gain by speaking with their healthcare provider. It will culminate on September 1, the first day of National Menopause Awareness Month, a month that shines the spotlight on health issues facing menopausal women.

So let’s shout it from the rooftops:

 It’s time to talk about sex after menopause!


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MenopauseMop: A Giveaway!




A menopause mop!

How cool is that?

Created by three Hot Flash Sistas!


This is how they describe their innovative mop:


Read the testimonials here!

Check out the colors and designs here.

Giveway: The Hot Flash Sistas are offering a mop to TWO Friend for the Ride readers. Simply enter a comment by September 1 saying that you’d like to be a winner. U.S and Canada only. Thanks, Sistas!

Downsizing: The Bicycle Nightgown



I’ve always been good about weeding my clothes closet and dresser, but part of my downsizing project this spring was to make some tough decisions on clothes I’ve been saving for sentimental reasons.

TWICE I put the bicycle nightgown in the giveaway bag.

TWICE I took it out.

Swirl back in time with me for a second.

Laura, four years old, sits on the floor of the dressing room at Belks.

First  I try on a flowered nightgown.

Then a white one with green bicycles racing across it.

“Which one should I get?” I ask her.

She points to the gown above. “That one.”

“How come?”


About ten years ago, I turned into a pajama girl.

But I couldn’t let that nightgown go. Those bicycles stayed parked in the bottom of my dresser drawer.

Then came downsizing.

Then came my failed attempts to give away the nightgown in May.

Before my hysterectomy for endometrial cancer in July, I was told, “Plan to wear nothing with waistbands for two weeks.”

No pajamas, so I bought a cripsy new nightgown.

The night I returned from the hospital, I put it on. Woa!

Way too tight. My belly was swollen like I was six month’s pregnant.

Guess what fit?

Nightgown up close

When I learned my uterus had to go, I felt such gratitude for the little girls it gave me.

The nightgown stays.


Photo: Above:  Laura, around the time she helped make the nightgown decision.

Transforming Your Aging Brain Joyfully: A Book Giveaway!




A post by aging experts Linda Stoler and Gretchen Espinetti:

Barbara, thank you for inviting us to visit your blog!  We’re excited to get the word out about our book, Transforming Your Aging Brain, to introduce the joyful Multi-Modal Method (MMM) that makes such a difference in our overall wellness as we age.

We know that the MMM works because we have experienced the transformation in our professional and personal lives.

Many years ago, after fifteen frustrating years working with children in speech pathology using traditional methods, Linda, while on a sabbatical, spent time getting in touch with her authentic creativity. Linda saw that music, movement, manual motion (sign language) and mindful meditation made a startling difference in the children she taught as she returned to her work in speech pathology.

The MMM has worked very well with Linda’s 94 year old mother with dementia, others in assisted living with dementia and Alzheimer’s as well as Gretchen’s father who is in the early stages of dementia.

We’ve done extensive research to support our “theories” so that we could present the book in a way that would be credible for the professional community as well as for the average person caring for an aging parent or loved one.  The book is also intended for seniors over 50 who are looking for ways to enhance their own well being as they age.

We have researched studies that have proved that our brains actually continue to rewire and reactivate as we age. Our book offers techniques to exchange negative messages of the past for an elevated, positive outlook.  Studies prove that a holistic, positive approach to life can actually prevent the onset of Alzheimer’s and dementia in many people.  There is evidence from autopsies showing  that though Alzheimer’s was in the brain during life, the elders with a positive outlook showed no signs of it.

We’ve offered evidence that supports our premise that fun, creativity, movement, music, meditation, manual motion, good nutrition, plenty of water, and so much more,  can make a world of difference in the quality of life for all of us as elders  and caregivers.

In the U.S. and around the world, we are facing a global concern because of such a large aging population. We believe that Transforming Your Aging Brain,  highlights the information and inspiration to teach people how to support and enhance their own emotional, physical, cognitive, and spiritual well-being in joyful ways!

Giveaway: The authors are giving one copy of Transforming Your Aging Brain to a lucky Friend for the Ride winner. Simply leave a comment by August first saying that you’d like to win.

Author photo- Linda S. Stoler
LINDA S. STOLER, CCC-SLP has more than 40 years of experience developing programs for children, using left brain, logical and cognitive perspectives. She learned that by bringing special needs and typically developing children out from behind their desks and sparking their creative spirits, the outcome was amazing. And so was born the Multi-Modal Method of teaching that Linda has recorded on CD and taught to hundreds, over the years.

When Linda’s talented mother developed dementia in her 90s, Linda exposed her to the sessions with the children, only to discover that her mother’s quality of life instantly included joy, laughter and music once again. Armed with that experience and the knowledge of brain and neuroscience research, Linda developed a seminar for the over 50 crowd, too. This initiative became known as Onto The Next and took on the form of interactive, inspirational seminars.

Author Photo- Dr. Gretchen Espinetti

DR. GRETCHEN ESPINETTI has enjoyed an extensive career in bilingual and early childhood education with an emphasis on multicultural education for children not developed within the culture of their parents. Her studies into neuroscience and the brain led her to use non-traditional methods of teaching including music, drama, dance and sign language. Science has proven that being fluent in more than one language protects us against age-related cognitive decline. Therefore, using the power of neuroplasticity as a preventative for elders facing dementia and Alzheimer’s was realized by this team.

Together, Gretchen and Linda impact the elders in their own lives and seek to make the life of all the aging population around the world one of quality and joy.