Puzzled: Putting the Menopausal Pegs Together

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For those of you just approaching menopause, who are technically in the years known as “perimenopause,” there’s a bit of advice at the end of this post (and hopefully others will chime in with some too).  One of the most confusing aspects of the whole shebang to me was figuring out what symptoms might be menopause and what symptoms might be signals of a serious health concern.

It’s majorly weird when things are going on with your body and your mind, and you’re not sure what the deal is.

New, odd stuff would be happening to me  (bugs crawling up my arm (read it here) being the strangest).  Could this be menopause?  I’d go to one of the lists such as 34 Menopause Symptoms, and I’d usually find it it there.  Yep, it’s menopause.

Women should come with personalized instruction books.  Now there’s an idea!  If I could run the world, I would institute that plan (and give each book a funky, upbeat cover).

Menopause is a puzzle. For me it was one of the biggest puzzles of my life.  A physical puzzle.  A mental puzzle. An emotional puzzle.  I love puzzles, but not being a puzzle whiz, it took me a while to get my pegs in a row.

And so the bit of advice:  expect to be puzzled.  Expect to have some worries.  Expect to feel like, yep, you’re riding a roller coaster.  And as you work to put your pegs into your very own puzzle, be patient.

Photo:  My Puzzle-Peg game is a version of peg solitaire.  A Wiki history says peg solitaire games probably go back to the days of Louis XIV. The first artistic rendering of someone playing peg solitaire dates to 1697.  Here she is:  Anne de Rohan-Chabot, Princess of Soubise, in the engraving you see below.  I don’t know what ya’ll think, but The Princess looks menopausal and puzzled to me:

8 responses »

  1. I love your puzzle peg game. I used to know how to do it. Probably would come back to me if I sat in front of one again. Good puzzle! And thanks for the history lesson about it! Yes, I do believe the Princess is stumped!

    • The Princess looks stumped to me. I’d be stumped too–just not that good at board games. Glad you like them though!

  2. The puzzle visual is excellent. One might even say you’ve “got it pegged.” 😉

    Yes, the symptoms of peri-menopause and menopause are vast. As a heads up, one of the dangers of all this confusion of so many symptoms is that we tend to start discounting them as “just menopause.” When, in fact, some of these very same symptoms are also symptoms of heart disease or heart attack.

    The scary thing is, many of our doctors ALSO chalk these symptoms up to menopause and never investigate them further. When was the last time you had an EKG or stress test? When was the last time your husband did? Those are routine tests for my husband, but even after telling my doctor about the tightness in my chest, shortness of breath, and choking feeling, etc…. she did NOT mention that I should probably have a stress test or EKG. She said very matter of factly that those of menopause symptoms.

    Luckily, these symptoms passed as I passed into menopause. Then and only then did I learn that they MIGHT have indicated I had heart disease. Yikes!

    Anyway, I digress… sort of. Yes, the menopausal years are a puzzle to be sure. But please don’t take any symptom for granted. Women tend to discount the very same symptoms their husbands might be having. Then, there are some symptoms of heart disease that are more often felt by women than men. Oh, but I carry on so! PLEASE read the facts about how some symptoms of heart disease are being ignored SIMPLY because a woman is experiencing them. I outlined the classic symptoms PLUS the symptoms more often seen in women than in men. Sorry, Barb, for adding a link here but I felt the information was really important. I hope that’s okay. 😀

    Menopause Symptoms Or Heart Disease

    Thank you so much, Barb!

    • Patti,
      Thanks so much for your comments and advice and link! I know I’m in a bit of denial when it comes to heart stuff, a leading killer of women. You’ve sent us all an excellent, HEARTFELT heads up!

  3. truly and probably the most perplexing puzzle we will have to unravel! i think you need to be really tuned in to your body. and also take note of symptoms coming and going like they did with your cycle. but no doubt it is tricky.
    love the puzzle peg game. now you can buy fancy ones of carved wood and pretty stones.

  4. This is so true! I am perimenopausal now and I wish I could just be done with it! I got an early glimpse, not because I wanted to but b/c I had breast cancer at 34 and then had to take Tamoxifen for several years (it blocks estrogen so gives very similar symptoms).

    Since then, I had my second child (at age 40) and now, at 48, I find myself having these symptoms again. Not fair! But happy to be alive!.

    Worst for me is the not being able to sleep well. I was the best sleeper and now I wake up nearly every night between 2 and 3 and don’t fall back asleep. Hot flashes and night sweats happen but with the right sleepwear, so far I can manage that. The more frequent periods are annoying (aren’t we supposed to be stopping those?).

    Cheers to us all!

  5. Stacie, I’m sorry you had to do this twice. Two good friends have had the same trouble with tamoxifen.

    I wish I had better words to say about the sleeping. It’s been awful for me. Gets better for a while and then I spiral downward sleep-wise again.. You’ll like the no periods–sounds like that’s on its way. Cheers to you too!

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