Barbara de Souza spent 40+ years doing missionary work in the shanty towns of Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. With the support of church congregations, she built a health clinic and trained women to be health workers in their communities.
These are her thoughts on menopause:
There are so many changes in life. From my experience, menopause is not just a change but a pause in life.
It’s actually a wonderful pause.
It’s a time to treasure the fun memories of adolescence, the strain of youthful competition, the worries about appearance, and the wonder of what being a grown woman,out on your own, can mean.
It is a time to reflect on the challenges of marriage, the transcendent experience of creating a new life, the weight of responsibility as you hold that precious one in your arms, the joys and anxieties of child rearing, the pleasure of accompanying the child towards independence, and then the shock of empty nest.
When this phase is all over, hold on to what remains, your memories.
Menopause is your time to pause and look back at your life and realize that now you can begin to think of yourselves again. You can make your desires and hopes a priority.
It can be such a rewarding time. The ending of the menstrual cycle means the beginning of YOUR independence.
Your bodies change as your life changes. It’s not a time to think you are getting older. No!
You are entering a phase of freedom to be what you would like to be. Even though a phase of productivity is ending, a new production is beginning. It’s a new chance to produce and live some dreams of your own.
Now it’s your life to be lived, your independence to be gained.
I wish this for every woman. Pause! Reflect! Begin again!
And now, at 83, far from menopause, I must pause again to reflect on the wonderful life I have had, and begin again a new phase.
Barbara, an ordained minister in the United Church of Christ, moved back to the United States in 2011 with her husband Gus, retiring to Thomasville, NC. Read what she’s doing in retirement!
She’s chairwoman of the spiritual life committee at Piedmont Crossing Retirement Community. Several days a week, Barbara serves as the volunteer chaplain at the Thomasville Medical Clinic. Additionally, she’s involved with Circles, a family service program that works to break the cycle of poverty by mentoring young women. Barbara is currently writing a book on her work in Brazil and the many stories of women she knew and their struggles. She’s the mom of my friend and guest poster, Judy Brown.
Top Photo: Barbara with the health workers she trained in the clinic, Associacao de Agentes Educadoras Comunitarias de Saude do Canal do Anil.
Middle Photo: Larissa, a young friend of Barbara’s, raised in a nearby shanty town.
Bottom Photo: Barbara now, with her new friend, Bobbie.
16 thoughts on “Guest Post: An 82-Year-Old Looks Back on The Pause”
What wonderful encouragement and a fabulous mentor for each of us. I love her advice to Pause! Reflect! Begin Again! I am making that a motto for 2013. Thank you for the timely guest post.
Yes, and when you reach my age of 82, you can pause again to look back and see all that you have accomplished after menopause and what you did with your second chance
Very timely, indeed. The positive attitude helps those of us that are new at this and facing it with uncertainty. Thank you!
Life is a series of ups and downs, but menopause is a new chance and when you reach my age of 82, you will look back again, pause and see what you have done with your 2nd chance. I think if we looked at it this way when we were going through menopause, we would be more challenged
Being positive at the new chance you have to be yourself, do what you may not have been able to do because of raising children when your desires were put aside for the desires of others. The whole work can open up! Go for it in confidence in yourself. Women are resilent, stronger than men, have always been. Women are magnificant!
What an incredible post from an incredible woman. Thank you for sharing this! “Pause. Reflect. Begin again.” So perfect. And such a great thought for moving forward… even as we ‘Pause.’ I loved being introduced to Barbara. I look forward to reading her book. 😉
Thank you and you might be interested in knowing the title: “When sleeping women awake, mountains will move.” an ancient Chinese proverb
Wow! What a great way to look at “the pause”–and at life in general. So many women look at menopause as the beginning of old age. It is just the beginning of a new stage! Thanks for reminding us of that. I will try to remember to Pause. Reflect. And begin again! And can’t wait to read your book.
Yes, Gail, you know that saying “life begins at 40”? Well I say, life begins after menopause!!
Wow you do more during your “retirement” than some folks do during their
“day job”. Where do you find the energy? Such an inspiration for us “newly” paused.
The energy comes from being free of so many things, including menstration! And then we are busy involved in things we like to do and now have the time to do, so energy is there.
This was a very inspiring post. Barbara must have had such a positive influence on so many young & not so young people in the impoverished towns in Brazil. I admire your life and the benefits that so many have had with your guidance. We, as US Americans, need to look more beyond our backyards. Reach out and help where we can. It is indeed a flat world now!!!
Yes, Mom….you have more energy than me! You are and always have been an inspiration. You have moved mountains! xoxoxooxo
Great post Nana 🙂