A post by my friend Kathy Cox:
My name is Kathy. I’m 54 years old and I have been single for the last six years. I didn’t quite make it to that 25th silver anniversary, but I did survive married life for 24 years.
I was quite unhappy in my marriage; it seemed that the only things my ex and I had in common were two wonderful sons, bills to pay, and a love of gardening. When I reached the ripe old age of 48, I said to myself, “I’m 48 and miserable…..twenty years from now, unless I change something, I will be 68 and miserable.”
So I got divorced. I liked the idea of marriage; I just hadn’t chosen the right person for me. So I optimistically set out to find “Mr. Right.”
In all honesty, this is what I thought to myself, “I look decent, I’m in fairly good shape, I have a basically cheerful personality, so surely my knight in shining armor will ride up on his white horse and sweep me off my feet.”
However, meeting that special someone proved to be a challenge.
I attend a church where the congregation is mostly old people.
I go to a gym where the men seem to be either young, short (I’m 5’10”), or married.
I work as an innkeeper on an island where most guests are couples on a romantic get-away.
Therefore, I decided to try my luck at online dating.
I was a little surprised to find that many men my age are interested in women much younger than me. Idiots! Do they really think they will be able to hang on to a woman in her 30’s when they are in their 50’s?
It also appeared that many men who were interested in me were already in their 60’s. I have no desire to take on a man ten or more years older than me in a brand-new relationship.
In the past six years I dated several men, and I met all but one of them online. My requirements for Mr. Right are: he should be at least 5’10”, intelligent, near my age, gainfully employed, decent looking, have a sense of humor, have some spiritual beliefs, and enjoy outdoor activities.
Unfortunately, although most men I dated met most of my requirements, there was usually some other issue that was a deal-breaker.
The first guy I dated was a smoker.
The next one was a narcissist.
Another one was an alcoholic.
Yet another one was extremely religious.
The most recent one had mental issues.
Then along came Nick.
I “met” Nick online about two months ago. He is 6’1”, 52 years old, attractive (I think), has a master’s degree, has a job as an antiques/art dealer, attends church regularly, and is very interested in me.
Could this finally be Mr. Right?
To be continued…
Kathy Cox lives in Wilmington, NC and has two grown sons (top photo) living in Raleigh, NC. She recently received her master’s degree in gerontology and is doing consulting work with a non-profit Aging in Place organization. She also sells printing and works as an innkeeper on Bald Head Island, NC.