Cliff took this picture of me in front of a steamy fountain on our wedding anniversary. I thought it was a good way to introduce an article on hot flashes. Thanks to blog reader Claire for sending the article my way.
Dr. Bond reports on a study conducted by Lydia Brown, a doctoral student in psychology in Australia. Brown researched hot flashes in 206 Australian women. She writes: “It isn’t just the physiology of a hot flash that can be stressful. It is also the thoughts, feelings and interpretations that surround the experience.”
Brown suggests: “In the midst of a hot flash, rather than thinking oh no, here we go again, a self-compassionate alternative would be to think it’s OK; I am there for you in this moment of suffering.”
Interesting. I might prefer: “I’m here for you with a cold glass of chardonnay,” or “Just survive this, and I’ll take you to the mall and buy you something festive!”
Another of Brown’s suggestions is mindfulness.
Live with the heat of the flash, but don’t pass judgement on it. In my words, that means don’t say to yourself, “I’m hot as Hades” or “Help. I’ve tumbled into a volcano!” Say upbeat, reassuring things like, “You’re my bosom buddy, hot flash!”
I don’t have hot flashes so I can’t try out Lydia Brown’s theory. But I’d love for those of you who do to give this technique a try. Let us know if you can make friends with a hot flash!