Menopause Words and Worry

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I found these wonderful words on the wall of the Metropolitan Museum of Modern Art. Let’s pretend the MOMA posted them just for us! The words happily reflect the upbeat changes that often sweep in once the menopause roller coaster slows down.

Recently, I’ve been reading lots about controlling our thoughts. As a younger woman, thoughts ruled me. I didn’t figure I could rule them. This thought about thoughts is a new thought for me.

Psychologists suggest we can rewire our brains. Check out this intriguing article. 

I’ve been exploring the thinking of Byron Katie, who writes:”Life is not difficult; it’s your thinking that makes it difficult…If you don’t love where you are, I invite you to question your beliefs.” (From A Thousand Names for Joy: Living in Harmony with the Way Things Are.) 

I like her four questions for analyzing every negative thought:

  • Is it true?
  • Can you absolutely know that it is true?
  • How do you react, what happens, when you believe this thought?
  • Who would you be without the thought?

Learn more about Byron Katie and her program, The Work, here.

Mind Power expert John Kehoe makes this great analogy:”You wouldn’t allow stinking garbage to build up in your house without taking action. Likewise don’t let negative thinking build up in the inner sanctuary of your mind.” Kehoe gives some concrete tips on how to eliminate negative thinking in this article.

What about you? Have you been successful at re-framing negative thoughts or worries?

P.S. I worried (Ha!Banish the word) about the word “furious” in the photo. But one definition is “full of energy.” Let’s all be furious  and happy together.

Giveaway Winners: Congratulations to Miriam, who won Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic;  Judith and Janet, who each won two pairs of  Confitex Underwear; and Rose, who won the Mighty Nightie. More giveaway announcements soon!

 

12 responses »

  1. I was working for a big Fortune 100 company in the early 80’s and for a meeting they brought in Zig Zigler to give the opening comments. ‘Stinkin Thinkin’ is what Zig called it, and having a ‘pity party’ really were motivating slogans for me to change my thinking for the better. Together with my Dad’s mantra of ‘if you are late you are late it doesn’t matter the excuse you are still late, apologize and get to work’, kept me in good company.

  2. Love this! I replace negative thoughts with its positive equivalent. Like “Where did my neck go?” to “Let’s pick out a gorgeous scarf (from the gazillions in my closet) and look tres chic today!” Positive usually wins!

  3. Great post! And I liked Haralee’s comment. I, too, have a a similar work story. My first boss ever, at my first job at a fast food establishment gave each employee an inspirational/aspirational poster one year at the holidays. On it was Calvin Coolidge’s exhortation to “Press On! Nothing in the world can take the place of perseverance, talent will not, etc.” Eye opener! I could decide to try ?! I could take things step by step and achieve a goal? It’s still my favorite aphorism. Words and thoughts matter! Thanks, Barbara!

  4. There is so much positive about “pressing on,” and the idea that it doesn’t matter why you’re late, just apologize and keep working. But, after suffering some of the effects of a loved one putting this mentality to work in full force during the “great recession,” all I can say is I would never do it again, or allow my loved one to do it again. What was as one might say a “bite the bullet, nose to the grindstone” approach, came back to bite us hard in terms of our health. Never again.

    • Perhaps the important thing here is the meaning of words to a person, just as this post highlights! What “pressing on” may mean probably differs a lot depending upon one’s life circumstances, etc. So, Byron Katie’s perspective is so important in this regard!

  5. Perhaps what matters here is WHY you are “pressing on”, and things like your social support, the overall context, etc. If it is out of a desire to “achieve” and be at your fullest potential, then that is very different from “pressing on” to avoid foreclosure, to desperately provide for your family, to compensate for a changing job environment that has become more stressful and problematic to negotiate, etc.

    So, “post message” well taken! Apparently Byron Katie (looking at her website) has “work” that means analyzing the meaning of these words – such as “pressing on!”

    Thank you, Barbara, for a most interesting and thought-provoking post!

    • I can definitely see that “pressing on” could go in both positive and negative directions. Phyllis, love to know what you think of Bryon Katie if you delve into her thinking more.

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