To continue on with the ideas in last week’s post, I am pleased to tell you about Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication by Oren Jay Sofer.
I loved this book, really loved it.
Here’s what the publisher writes:
Say What You Mean is a step-by-step guide for meaningful conversations that bring people together. In this groundbreaking synthesis of mindfulness, somatics, and Nonviolent Communication, Sofer offers simple yet powerful practices for healthier, more effective conversation. The practices are simple yet deep, helping people develop healthy, effective, and satisfying ways of communicating in all walks of life.
The techniques in Say What You Mean will help you to:
- Feel confident during conversation
- Stay focused on what really matters in an interaction
- Listen for the authentic concerns behind what others say
- Reduce anxiety before and during difficult conversations
- Find nourishment in day-to-day interactions
Me again: I highlighted passage after passage as I read. But these takeaways are the most important to me:
- You won’t fix all your communication troubles at once. Just like the fitness program that finally kicks in, it may take many attempts until you figure out how to be a mindful communicator.
- Learn to work out conflict in a relationship by beginning with the smaller, simpler issues. Once your skills are honed, you can move on to the dicier topics.
- As soon as you see a downward trend in the conversation, calmly pause it with the sincere promise that you will resume again when ready. If you’re NOT willing to discuss something again, don’t make a false promise.
- Keep difficult conversations to one topic and one topic only.
- Use as few words as you can to say clearly and calmly what you mean.
Giveaway: For a chance to win a copy of Say What you Mean, please enter a comment by March 1. U.S. only. Thanks!
14 thoughts on “Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication-A Giveaway”
Looks like a great book! And cool timing – Valentine’s Day.
Yes! Happy day to you. (And it really is a great book.)
On Thu, Feb 14, 2019 at 8:57 AM Friend For The Ride wrote:
I would really enjoy reading this book! Hope I am the winner!
Happy Valentine’s Day to you, Barb!!! I always enjoy your posts and blog!❤️
Count me in for a chance or two! 😊
I was just looking at this book a few days ago when it was brought to my attention! I think it’s confirmed I need to read it. Thanks for the give away. ❤
Really interesting approach to communication with conflict resolution tips!
Thanks! I know I need this…
This book sounds very promising and something most of us could profit from.
Can’t wait to check it out!
How to check this book out soon!
Hi! I was planning to buy this book, so I’ll throw my name into the virtual hat here! Thanks. 🙂
I’ve had the privilege to sit with Oren and house experience and wisdom is broad. I hope to sit with him again this May for an insight dialogue retreat.
Hello and thank you for offering the giveaway. I’m throwing my name in the mix! I’ve heard good things about the book.
NVC has been really helpful in my life, and if I win the free book I’ll share it with my daughter. Thanks for the offer.