I just finished James Clear’s Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. I’m head over heals in love with this book.
As I read, habit after habit popped into my mind-those I want to get rid of and those I’d like to add.
Here’s a quick description of the book from the publisher: “Clear is known for his ability to distill complex topics into simple behaviors that can be easily applied to daily life and work. Here, he draws on the most proven ideas from biology, psychology, and neuroscience to create an easy-to-understand guide for making good habits inevitable and bad habits impossible.”
Visit James Clear’s website here. And here’s a link to a great get-started article by James.
As I write this post, I have a list of forty-three habits I’d like to either break or add. Wow!
When I tell my friends about my list, they say things like, “Isn’t that a bit excessive?” Another friend suggested such a long list implies a lack of self-esteem. Not true. I’m basically happy with myself, but there are for sure ways I’d like to change.
I’m pumped! I’m going to take it four at a time. When those four are conquered, I’ll add four more. So here we go with the first four:
Tea: I plan to limit my tea drinking to two cups. Since I put sugar in my tea, my three to five cup habit isn’t healthy. My cutback is mostly about sugar, but I do want to limit caffeine as well. My doctor says even morning caffeine can contribute to insomnia.
Interrupting: I have the rude habit of interrupting people. Enough said. Time to stop.
Scrolling Facebook: When I’m at odds as to what to do next, I scroll Facebook on my phone. I love Facebook. It’s been a great way for me to promote my art and this blog, and I’ve made wonderful connections with people near and far. But it’s definitely a time eater, and I’d love to reclaim some of that time for other activities.
Hand Weights: Although I walk about four miles a day, I haven’t been doing anything to build muscle, especially in my upper body. I need to use my hand weights. I’m also going to add resistance bands.
To help me remember the first four habits I’m working on, I’ve made them my laptop screensaver. Three are habits I want to eliminate and one is a habit I want to add. No clue yet which process is easiest.
I’m planning to chronicle my progress on Friend for the Ride. I’d love for some of you to join me. Choose a few habits of your own and see how you do in either eliminating a bad one or adding a good one. Guests posts welcome!
What’s spurring me on is visualizing my life a year from now. What if I’ve nailed the habits I’ve listed in this post? I’d be delighted. What if I can nail more? Fabulous!!
GIVEAWAY: I’m giving away copies of Atomic Habits to TWO lucky Friend for the Ride readers. For a chance to win, please enter a comment by August 1. Thanks!
This is such a great post and I want to encourage you to accomplish your goals ! Giving up sugar will add to your health ! Adding weights will give you the energy to live life to the fullest ! I don’t always comment on your blog but I do read every article ! You are wonderful !
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Thank you Laura! It’s going well thus far!
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I’ve heard lots of great things about this book! Putting it on my book list now. I bet it would make a great gift, also! Personally I’m switching to many more organic foods and products, detoxing where I can. Good luck on your journey!
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Let us know what you think of the book. I found it quite readable and encouraging.
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Great project! Sounds like a very interesting book. I know I need to change lots of habits and I think reducing FB and other internet uses would make me more productive.
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Cutting back on online time is so tricky. I’m making some progress.
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I definitely need to reduce the time I spend on social media. And add to the time I spend on exercise. If I just switched those two, I’d come out ahead!
I’d love to read the book for inspiration which I clearly need. Good luck to you, Barb, on your four goals! Keep us posted on your progress! ❤️
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That would be a good switch for me too!
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Good idea. If I lifted free weights every time I scroll through Facebook or Instagram I could get a lot of reps in every day. I resolve to time myself and add equal amounts of strength training.
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I should start with 2 habits to lose: scrolling Facebook and procrastinating about everything! I’ll probably even put off starting to break my bad habits. LOL
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Ha! Procrastination is such a tricky one. One suggestion of the author’s is that you start the
project by telling yourself that you only have to work on it for two minutes. Many people get swept in and continue working. He also believes in quitting before you are tired of working on it. Said Hemingway always stopped working on a novel the second he was on a real roll. Seems odd to me but interesting to ponder.
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I’ve switched to decaf green tea. I don’t remember there being a big taste difference between decaf and regular. I drink my iced tea unsweetened now (and gallons of it during the summer heat) but still need a little agave nectar in hot tea. For iced tea I kept reducing the sugar until I got to none. So try decaf tea (regular or green) and see if that is palatable!
I am excited to see how the habit changes go, such hard work. Good luck.
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Thanks for tea advice. I haven’t had much luck with decaf tea in hot tea. Just doesn’t taste right. I do need to experiment with green. My research says green has half the caffeine of black tea.
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Your honesty and openness is admired and inspiring! I’d love to win the book… I want to cut out or reduce my sugar intake as well (ice cream has become my vice!) as well as ‘up’ my exercise habit. Thanks Barbara! Love your writing. xoxo
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Love ice cream! Thanks on my writing. A friend and her husband said to me a while ago, “Gosh, do you tell the truth.” Worried me a bit. I have a feeling I said something to hurt their feelings! Hope not.
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Barbara, this sounds like an excellent plan. I’m also terrible about interrupting and have been working on stopping that and really listening to people without worrying about what I want to say in response.
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Gee. I never noticed that you were an interrupter. I will try your idea of really listening. I always think I am listening but maybe I can listen more/harder/deeper! My problem is I get wound up and forget that I am supposed to not interrupt. I am thinking of getting a bright bracelet to wear to help me remember.
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Barbara, great post. I share the bad habit of not doing upper-body work, so I started alternating weights 3 days a week with a morning bike ride the other 3 days. (Sunday off.) Then a walk in the afternoons. We’ll have to compare notes. I have the opposite problem with FB. I intend to check in and see how people are doing, but always leave it till last because I don’t really enjoy FB. Tips on how to use it without posting my entire personal life?
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Do you feel any guilt on your exercise day off? I have tried to do that and then feel guilty. Silly, I know. I guess I just need to get in the HABIT of taking a day off, and then maybe I will chill. In regards to FB, why not post some interesting articles you find. I enjoy posting my photos. You could post photos of your many adventures on bike or foot. We have one friend who has been
putting up closeups of water lilies, which Cliff and I have both found fascinating. And then of course, there’s that adorable kitty. People love cat photos!
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Barb, no guilt on my exercise day off – though I do usually go for a long walk on Sundays. It’s just not an “exercise exercise” kind of day. Thanks for tips on FB.
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Thanks for the book suggestion- I am always looking for inspiration and encouragement. I chose to stop drinking alcohol last Sept 1 and I’ve been really focusing on my health. But there are other habits I know I could change- I bet my family has suggestions! I think it’s empowering to change- all the best to you Barbara.
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I wasn’t brave enough to ask my family for suggestions although they’ve been giving me subtle hints about some of these things for years.Congrats on the alcohol!
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This book sounds great. I can think of several habits I need help with. 🙂
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It’s been a game changer for me.
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Wow! Very inspiring!!
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I would love a copy of this book. I always kick my coffee habit and then I end up giving in to it again!
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I came over from Kath’s blog and I’d love to win a copy of this book! I need to stop being distracted by my phone when I’m with my kids (which is almost always!) and cut out snacking when I’m not hungry.
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I found your blog through KERF and had to stop over because I’ve heard so many great things about Atomic Habits! Looking forward to see your progress!
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I will add the book to my reading list. I need to cut back on my sugar habit. Thanks for the book recommendation.
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This sounds like a good book. Your plan for dealing with bad habits sounds like a good one! Beth
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Putting this book on my ‘Want to Read” list right now (and would love to win a copy)! I’m a big fan of small self-improvement goals. I like your idea of taking the whole list and breaking it down into 4 small goals to work on at a time.
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Yes!!! Excited about this book! Thanks!
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I think it’s great this book seems so actionable. I want to get rid of my after dinner snack habit.
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Inspiring! I am visiting from your daughter’s blog, and I have (at least) one habit from her list and one from yours that I would very much like to change: the CHIP thing (OMG) and the Facebook scroll. Wish me luck! I would love to win the book….
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I’m here from Kath’s post. LONG time reader and “fan” of your family 🙂 I have had this book in my cart for 2 days and am thrilled to read about a giveaway. Thank you in advance!
There is such power and strength in self-improvement and pushing for growth (especially with the mindset you mentioned “what if I nailed this and next year can confidently look back on my success?!”) Woo, this excites me on this Tuesday morning!! In 2 weeks I will be transitioning to working from home/staying at home with my young son (just a bit younger than Birch!) and believe this is the perfect time to create new great habits and bust through old bad habits!
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Good luck on your list! I think I will make a list and start chiseling away at them. Did you start with the ones that are most important to you? I look forward to reading the progress posts. Looks like a great book.
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Hi Barbara!
I saw your inspiration on Kath’s blog- Kath Eats Real Food(for those who haven’t visited) and I had to look further into your quest!
I definitely have a ton of habits I want to break, but more I want to add!
I like your idea of breaking it down to 4! More manageable and less overwhelming!
You have definitely inspired me! (Just as your daughter does every day!!) Thank you!
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I was recently diagnosed with binge eating disorder (I suspicioned it, but having it confirmed is hard and at my age and stage I’m like SERIOUSLY, can you NOT figure this out)!! So we are learning that ALL food is okay, excessive food, or the thought that you HAVE TO EAT THE LAST LITTLE BIT, like there won’t be more at the store, etc., are really really hard habits to break. And ultimately binge eating is NEVER about the food; so you have to dig deep and find the other habits you have and are ignoring, or don’t want to fix because it will make you uncomfortable, etc.
This sounds like a book that might make sense, both in my head and heart because I need all of me to make changes. Thanks for sharing; excited to subscribe and follow along!
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Wow this seems like something I need!! Really love how you break down things so its manageable to improve. Very inspiring!
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Thank you for posting about this book. I am eager to think about my habits. Little things turn into big things!
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Love this! I live the idea of small changes adding up to big change!
Im going to see if my library has the book!
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I’ve been reading KERF for years (maybe 10!) and never knew you also had a blog. I’d love to win this book. Have you also read The Power of Habit? Would highly recommend since you are in the midst of habit setting!
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What a great concept! I too, need to stop all the Facebook scrolling. I do it when bored or procrastinating and there’s so much more I could be doing!
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Would love to give this book a read! I definitely have some habits I would like to change!
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I am a procrastinator and am always trying to find new ways to help push through in order to feel a sense of completion and accomplishment. Thank you for posting about this book.
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where would begin!
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Wow! Sugar is a hard one! I need that too!!
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I would definitely like to read this book and get back to some of the better habits I’ve had. In the past I really liked using the app HabitBull — you should check it out! Really helpful, especially if you like checking things off every day. I find it really satisfying.
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I jumped over here from your daughter’s blog to check it out. The book is intriguing! I too have quite a few changes that I’d like to make. Making new habits stick is always tough for me. Good luck with your habit breaking/making!
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That is an impressive list! I recently got rid of Facebook and instagram (for a bit!) to help break this habit. I would love a chance to read this book…so intriguing!
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I clearly need to stop drinking caffeine. I’m 50 and some nights the insomnia is bad!!
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Interrupting. I also sometimes find myself thinking I do this too often and need to stop. Why do you think you do it?
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I’ve had that book on my radar for a while! Time to actually read it & eliminate bad habits. Your idea of a few at a time is great!
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I found you by accident and am so glad. Will be scrolling back thru your archives! I too have many habits to break and am looking forward to reading about eliminating them. Will check the library here if I don’t win and will spread it thru my friends. Then donate it in tour name. A pleasure.
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The book sounds fascinating. Hope it works for you. There are several habits I need to change, but when I think of doing so I become anxious.
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I love this! I’m all about continuous growth and improving or changing your habits can be so impactful. Already starting a mental list….! Definitely looking into this! Thank you for sharing!
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I’ve been meaning to dig into this book! I love these types of personal development books and work.
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The book sounds good! I like your idea of a comprehensive list of habits to work on (43!) but breaking it down into smaller chunks and layering. I think that being mindful and consistent is key! Good luck to you. I am going to need to seek out that book.
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I love the idea of giving up “bad” habits and gaining new ones. I too am trying to spend less time on Facebook, so I’m getting back to reading blogs, finding new ones ( like yours) and back to writing on my own. I need to get back into the habit of some form of daily exercise. After 14 years of owning my own business and just recently closing it to semi-retire, I need to take better care of myself and find the time to exercise. I’ll be following along to see how you do with your habits.
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I have some habits I’d like to get rid of and some I’d like to pick up.
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This book looks amazing! Thanks for sharing.
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I’m always working on breaking old or starting new habits! I’d love this book!
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this looks like a great way to tackle small changes i’d like to make!
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I have a few habits I need to work on. Can’t wait to read this book.
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I’m a regular subscriber to your daughter’s blog, KERF and she referred to article about the book you recommended about”Atomic Habits and Me.” It sounds like something that my husband would be interested in reading or hearing on audio books while driving on his long commute to work.
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Great timing of this opportunity to look at things I would like to change and make a positive habit in my life. Thanks so much.
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Hi! I hope to win this book but if not, then I’ll buy it! I found you via Kath. My daughter, Caroline, is also a Davidson graduate.
I am going to stop my interrupting habit, too!
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I have read a couple of books about habits, making and breaking them. I hadn’t heard about this book yet though. I added myself to the waiting list for it at my library. If I fail to win the giveaway, I may just break down and buy myself a copy. I do have a bad habit of buying some books and waiting too long to read them. 🙂
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I love this concept…tiny changes over time can lead to big results. I’m guilty of trying to change them in a big way and have trouble sticking to it when it feels so drastic. I’m curious what the author says about recognizing the triggers of these habits! Thanks for recommending.
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I have not read this book yet, but it has been on my radar for some time now. As I have gotten older, I have really realize the habits I have that make my life easier / more enjoyable or harder / are a waste of my time…I have noticed now that I am more aware of these, I can make small changes just like you listed above in small amounts of time. I can’t wait to read this book to see his perspective as well!
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I’ve been eyeing this book for a few weeks.. I want to model for my children the importance of self-awareness and discipline. Glad you loved it!
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This is my first time visiting, I didn’t know you did a blog. I have been following Kath for years!
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Hi Barbara! I found you over here because of Kath’s post 🙂 This book looks amazing! At the moment I’d love to drop my habit/crave of having a glass of wine while making dinner every night. it just sounds and tastes so much better than water! I can sense your enthusiasm!! Cindy xx
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Thank you for writing about Atomic Habits. I also read Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin and added a few new habits to my daily life. I was surprised how easy it was to add a few new habits by looking at them as small enhancements rather than huge changes. I’ve put Atomic Habits on hold at the library and look forward to reading it and learning more about establishing new habits.
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You’ve really resonated with me here. Thank you for the inspiration. I’m going to definitely try changing some of my habits, too (my list is long, but I like your idea of just tackling a few at a time). I’m going to start with drinking more water, not taking seconds at mealtime, and making my bed every morning.
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This book sounds amazing! I definitely could change some habits in my life!
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Thanks to everyone for your enthusiasm for my topics post and my plan to work on some of mine!
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I love this! I recently saw this book at a bookstore and almost bought it. I think I will have to get it now. I found this post via KathEats (which I read and enjoy so much).
The habits I would like to work on are exercising regularly, listening better to others when they talk instead of talking so much, and staying more organized with household paperwork.
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I talk a lot too. Really trying to work on slowing down with my words.. Hope to post about it in a month or so.
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I love thinking about habits! They truly shape your life! I loved Gretchen Rubin’s Better Than Before so I would love to dive deeper with this book!
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I would love to read this book, thank you for the generous giveaway! I find it easier to replace a bad habit with a better choice… but it’s always a challenge to change our set-in ways!
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I’m trying to overhaul my life! This book would be an amazing start!
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