Menopause

Arguing. Who’s Done?

 

I want that to be me.

I’m not talking about important moments when you truly need to stand up for yourself.

I’m talking about the dumb stuff. The stuff that doesn’t deeply matter.

Letting even minor arguments go can be a challenge at first, especially when you’re pretty sure you’re right. It can feel like keeping your hands out of the M & M’s bowl. Not easy!

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“I know I’m right. I know I’m right. I know I’m right,” your brain chants. But learning to resist can save the moment or save the day or maybe even save the vacation.

Can you do it?

Our spunky interim pastor talked about the best toast given at her wedding. The toaster looked at them both and said, “You can either be right or you can stay married.”

And so perhaps not arguing about the dumb stuff should be a credo for happiness in all relationships. Even with strangers.

It feel so right to give up the need to be right.

What do you say? Are you there yet?

P.S. I lifted the graphic at the top of the post from Tiny Buddha: Simple Wisdom for Complex Lives. This may or may not be a fair use of one of their graphics. If you find this, Tiny Buddha, and want me to take it down, I will. No arguing. Love your site! Facebook wisdom at its best.

8 thoughts on “Arguing. Who’s Done?”

  1. We get so caught up in right and wrong. So much so that we miss out on actually learning and growing! It is all perspective anyway. Great wedding quote from our spunky indeed ínterim pastor!

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    1. Yep. The trick is to remember the concept of letting go in the moment when you really want to hold on! Practice, they say, is the key. I also do a bit of patting myself on the back when I reflect upon times I chose peace.

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