Author Archives: Barbara Younger

About Barbara Younger

Check out my blog about menopause and all things related to women and life: Friend for the Ride: Encouraging Words for the Menopause and Midlife Roller Coaster

Be Yourself-Everyone Else Is Taken

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Do you like your name?

I’m not wild about mine. Didn’t like it at all when I was a kid. I’ve grown into it a bit. I do like that Barbara has lots of nicknames, and I’ve always admired Beaver’s mother, Barbara Billingsly. I think June Cleaver has lots more chutzpa then the world gives her credit for.

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Sometimes, when I sign my name during a credit card transaction, I say to myself. “Slow down. Write your name with happiness and confidence. Be pleased and grateful for who you are.” So I write slowly:

Except that it doesn’t look as nice as that font because my handwriting isn’t great. In fact, I’m not happy with my handwriting.

Or my singing voice.

Or my dinner entrees (I’m better on side dishes).

Or my fingernails.

This takes us to the topic of self-esteem. They say menopause brings confidence once you get through the thick of it. I do find as I get older, my self-esteem is improving. And I’ve learned it’s okay to have lots of shortfalls.

Someone once asked my dad what his talents were. He answered, “I’m really good at edging flower gardens.”

I like that!

I can make a teddy bear talk like he’s the most fascinating bear in the world, and I know the names of all the state capitols.

Maybe that’s enough.

I snapped this photo in a funky coffee shop in Kentucky:

 

Yep!

And check out this article on the Positivity Blog:  Tips on self-esteem.  

What about you? Are you happier with yourself than you were twenty years ago?

And do you like your name?

Top Photo:  I saw this sign in a Cinque Terre village on our trip to Italy. No clue what type of business it is.

Bottom Photo: I found this name bracelet among the treasures I saved when my daughter Laura was born. I wonder if hospitals nowadays give mothers such pretty bracelets.

Hormone Replacement Therapy: An Update from Science News

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I received this note from the Society for Science & The Public on the topic of Hormone Replacement Therapy:

Hormone Replacement Therapy and how it impacts women’s bodies during menopause has been a longstanding debate. This week, Science News, features a piece called “Menopause Heats Up informing audiences about the biological workings of menopause and a discussion of the pros and cons of hormone replacement therapy.

In this article, Science News cites a number of reputable organizations that stress the benefits of hormone replacement therapy on the surge of hot flashes that present during menopause, but ultimately suggests treatment is a unique personal decision for all women.

The article’s author, Aimee Cunningham, is the biomedical writer at Science News. She has a degree in English from the University of Michigan and a master’s degree in science journalism from New York University.

Me again: The article is clearly written and helps dispel some of the incorrect assumptions made after the release of the 2002 Women’s Health Initiative study. (My gynecologist called the day the study came out “A Black Friday for women’s menopausal health.”)

Do read Menopause Heats Up” to learn more about the pros and cons of HRT. So many women decide against HRT without really understanding the facts.

Follow Science News on Twitter.

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Love Worth Making: A Book Review and Giveaway

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Announcing Love Worth Making (St. Martin’s Press; February 13, 2018) by Dr. Stephen Snyder, a sex and couples therapist and psychiatrist featured on NBC’s Today, GlamourNewsweek, and Cosmopolitan.  Talk about a fun read! My favorite takeaway is that sex shouldn’t be difficult. Who knew? If sex feels like a chore or a hurdle, work to change things up. Adjust. Adapt. Chill. Relax. Dr. Synder tells you how. 

Here’s the scoop on the book in the words of the publisher:

For couples in long-term, committed relationships, a satisfying sex life can be elusive. Sex advice is plentiful, but it overwhelmingly focuses on techniques to spice up your sex life and make things “new” and “exciting.” What if, however, this advice fundamentally misunderstands the sexual needs of men and women in committed relationships?

In Love Worth Making, Dr. Stephen Snyder explains how a great sex life is possible when we connect deeply with our sexual feelings. A sex therapist with 25 years of experience, Dr. Snyder offers a game-changing approach to good sex in this lively and informative book.

Research from the Kinsey Institute suggests that 25% of American women in heterosexual relationships are markedly distressed about their sex lives. Love Worth Making uses stories from Dr. Snyder’s practice to illustrate how to make significant and lasting changes to your sex life. He also integrates the latest research on human sexuality in easily understandable terms. Dr. Snyder’s guidance will allow couples to understand and embrace their sexual feelings in order to have the best sex of their lives.

Like Mating in Captivity, Love Worth Making is destined to become a defining book on sexuality for couples of all ages and backgrounds.

 Giveaway: The publisher is offering a copy of Love Worth Making to one lucky Friend for the Ride winner. For a chance to win, please enter a comment by March 5. Thanks!

About the Author: Stephen Synder, M.D, is a sex and couples therapist, psychiatrist, and writer in New York City. He is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mt. Sinai in New York City, and chairman of the Consumer Book Award Committee for the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR). He has treated patients at his practice for 25 years, is a guest on major media outlets nationwide, and writes for Psychology Today and Huffington Post. He lives with his wife and children in New York City.

Author Photo Credit: Michael Benabib

The Ladies Room Door Art Series: Part Forty-one!

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From Diane, comes the best ladies room view ever! Diane snapped this gorgeous picture in Revello, Italy, on the Amalfi Coast. 

Here’s the unisex door at Volume, a fun beer and record store (yes, records!) that just opened up in a restored old building in Hillsborough.

From Susan, Halloween doors at the IHOP in Chantilly, Virginia.

From Beth, Parallel 38 in Charlottesville, Virginia. The ladies room door:

AND, the heated toilet.

From Claire, Della Rosa’s Local Tavern in Bel Air, Maryland. The young woman on the door is Sallie Utz, the Utz Potato Chip Girl. Fellow Marylanders will recognize Maryland’s lovely flag in her hair bow.

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The door for gentlemen features Natty Boh, the National Bohemian Beer mascot.

This one comes from Candace, who writes she found the door “somewhere in DC:”

Kathy took this at the Five Happiness Restaurant in San Francisco.

These huge letters grace the bathroom doors at Three Notch Brewery in Charlottesville, Virginia. We spent Thanksgiving there with daughter Kath and family.

 

From Jennifer, the sign by the First Ladies dresses at the Smithsonian. It made her think of the blog! Thanks, Jennifer. Wouldn’t this make a fun door for a ladies room in DC? What should the men’s room say?


There you have it. From Ancient Greece to Washington D.C., this wraps up another edition of Friend for the Ride’s ladies room door series. Thank you one and all!