Menopause Words and Worry



I found these wonderful words on the wall of the Metropolitan Museum of Modern Art. Let’s pretend the MOMA posted them just for us! The words happily reflect the upbeat changes that often sweep in once the menopause roller coaster slows down.

Recently, I’ve been reading lots about controlling our thoughts. As a younger woman, thoughts ruled me. I didn’t figure I could rule them. This thought about thoughts is a new thought for me.

Psychologists suggest we can rewire our brains. Check out this intriguing article. 

I’ve been exploring the thinking of Byron Katie, who writes:”Life is not difficult; it’s your thinking that makes it difficult…If you don’t love where you are, I invite you to question your beliefs.” (From A Thousand Names for Joy: Living in Harmony with the Way Things Are.) 

I like her four questions for analyzing every negative thought:

  • Is it true?
  • Can you absolutely know that it is true?
  • How do you react, what happens, when you believe this thought?
  • Who would you be without the thought?

Learn more about Byron Katie and her program, The Work, here.

Mind Power expert John Kehoe makes this great analogy:”You wouldn’t allow stinking garbage to build up in your house without taking action. Likewise don’t let negative thinking build up in the inner sanctuary of your mind.” Kehoe gives some concrete tips on how to eliminate negative thinking in this article.

What about you? Have you been successful at re-framing negative thoughts or worries?

P.S. I worried (Ha!Banish the word) about the word “furious” in the photo. But one definition is “full of energy.” Let’s all be furious  and happy together.

Giveaway Winners: Congratulations to Miriam, who won Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic;  Judith and Janet, who each won two pairs of  Confitex Underwear; and Rose, who won the Mighty Nightie. More giveaway announcements soon!


The Ladies Room Door Art Series: Part Twenty-two




Our Ladies Room Door Art Series continues! Thanks to those of you who photographed these wonderful doors.

I discovered musicians Nancy and Anne Wilson at the Blue Note Grill in Durham, North Carolina, on the door above.

From Rachel, the doors at Pompeii Pizza in Durham. The restaurant is set in an old firehouse, which explains the somewhat off-color names on the doors. (I’m not sure how I would explain “Jaws of Life” on a ladies room door to a six-year-old.”) Fun doors though, that’s for sure!



From Silvia, who snapped this photo at a steakhouse in Santa Ana, El Salvador. Silvia sent along a translation: “Ella” means “she” and “damas” means “ladies.”


From Kirstina, The Pineville Tavern in Wrightstown, PA, which is said to be haunted. Kristina reports the tavern was featured on Diners, Drive-ins, and Dives.


From Candace, 49 West in Annapolis, Maryland.


From daughter Kath at the H G Sply Company in Dallas, Texas.


From Pat, The Continental, a restaurant in Richmond, Virginia.


Johnna snapped this at a friend’s house.


Jay’s Chicken Shack, right up the street from me:


From Gail, a bathroom in Page Auditorium at my alma mater, Duke University.


From Barb, Virginia’s on the Bay, Port Aransas, Texas. Barb wrote, “One guess which is the men’s room!”




And Barb found this one at The Brewery, also in Port Aransas.

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And finally, Cliff sent me this cartoon, which certainly fits our theme!

12805824_900058070092263_4800686065430922713_nThanks one and all for your contributions. It’s readers like you who keep the Ladies Room Door Art Series flushing along on Friend for the Ride!

We Are Women: A Giveaway!


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Introducing: WE ARE WOMEN: CELEBRATING OUR WIT AND GRIT. This spunky, upbeat, and moving collection of photographs and quotations was created by June Cotner and Barb Mayer. In this post, Barb tells us more:

The idea for WE ARE WOMEN originated with June, who has always loved browsing through vintage greeting cards. Curious about what kind of lives these women led, she decided to develop a book that would feature vintage photos of women paired with inspiring as well as humorous quotes. Our goal was to create a book that would appeal to both younger and older women, one that would embody the best of the human spirit. We wanted to show how these positive characteristics have been handed down through generations of women.

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WE ARE WOMEN is a celebration of womanhood. It shows that our ancestors were a far cry from the staid and serious portrait photos we often see in antique shops and history books. They were daring, innovative, and fun-loving. They were pilots, motorcycle riders, skiers, engineers, and political activists. Many were pioneers who paved the way for future generations of women to pursue careers that were traditionally dominated by men.


We hope that our book will inspire and uplift women, encouraging them to live their lives to the fullest.

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Giveaway: Friend for the Ride is giving away a copy of WE ARE WOMEN to two lucky winners. For a chance to win, please enter a comment by April 30. Thanks!

Amazon Link: You can order WE ARE WOMEN here.


June Cotner is the author of 34 books including the bestselling GRACES. Her books altogether have sold more than one million copies and have been featured in many national publications including USA Today, Woman’s Day, and Family Circle. Follow June on Facebook, Linkedin and Twitter. Check out June’s website at and her author page on

Barb Mayer

Barb Mayer is a frequent contributor to the anthologies of June Cotner, as well as an award-winning photographer. Born in London, England, she relocated to Canada, then to America, developing along the way a zest for travel and foreign culture. Follow Barb on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Twitter. You may visit her website at and her author page on

More detailed info on photo credits can be found here. (These are fascinating to read.)

Feminine Supplies and Distributing Dignity



In Germany last fall, I had a great time photographing ladies room doors. I also picked up the above bag. Look at all those languages! Women, everywhere, experience periods. Once home, I began pondering how other cultures regard menstruation. I found this article in the Huffington Post.

The article not only describes the menstruation hardships of women in other cultures, but it points back to the United States. Homeless and low income women here often can’t buy the supplies they need, and they may not have access to showers and clean towels. Here’s an article in MS Magazine.

Distributing Dignity is an organization that collects bras and tampons/pads.Their mission is to help women who are:

  • In and Aging out of foster care
  • Seeking refuge from domestic violence or abuse
  • Homeless: veterans, teens and others
  • Struggling with life altering illness
  • Displaced by disaster

 Read more about the work they do here.

Distributing Dignity

Your local food bank or shelter welcomes donations of feminine supplies. We regularly donate food, but I have never taken sanitary supplies. I think this is partly because they are so expensive, which is the whole point! Women need them.

I’m also wondering if middle schools and high schools would appreciate donations of feminine supplies. Any teachers out there know the answer?