When the Bottom Falls Out: Surgery for Uterine Prolapse


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 A post by a friend who recently had prolapse surgery:

I have always prided myself on being one of those ladies who could cough and sneeze without incident.

Well, being proud has nothing to do with reality or the fact that a myriad of other ailments occurred without my permission!!

I started having lower abdominal pain. My first thought was bladder infection.

I went to the doctor and no, it wasn’t.

Did I pick up something heavy and pull a muscle??

No, I thought….weeeell maybe.

I do lift groceries at the food pantry.  I do haul furniture around.  I go to Costco and fill my truck with big bags of potting soil, dog food and such.  My 95 year old friend told me last year: “You know, you work like a man!”…. hmmm.

So, I decided it was a muscle strain but, denial is a funny thing because eventually the truth prevails.

Time for my annual visit arrived.

I complained to my nurse practitioner and listed my symptoms- lower abdominal pain, slow urine flow and frequent constipation.

It took her all of 2 milliseconds to give me the verdict.  I had uterine prolapse.

How could my body do this to me??

Yes, I am 58 and so what if I had early menopause (age 39) and so what if I had a long, rough delivery giving birth to our daughter?  My grandmother had prolapse and she ignored it. Truthfully though, I was not going to be able to live with it. I was miserable.

What were my options?

I could use a pessary which acts like a diaphragm to hold the uterus in place, have repair surgery, or have a hysterectomy.

Fix it or remove it and forget it or deal with the place holder?

I was sent to an expert and she asked me the same question.  I asked her to fix it.

Then the she dropped the bladder bomb.

She told me that a high percentage of women who don’t leak when they cough before hysterectomy, will have this problem later.  She proposed to do the bladder sling surgery at the same time.

So be it; a partial hysterectomy, vaginal wall repair and a bladder sling

Well, it’s been 10 days since my operation, and I’m feeling pretty good so far with little pain.

I must succumb to strict restrictions.  No picking up anything heavier than 3 pounds for 6 weeks followed by a lifetime of not working like a man.

I guess we all have our limits.

The pups understand that there is no lap time with Mommy for a while. They are so patient with the patient!!



Ellen’s Video: A Mother and Son Production


Three cheers for sons!

And a thousand cheers for a cool son who helps his mom, Ellen Dolgen, spread honest and up-to-date information about perimenopause and menopause.

Jack Dolgen produced Ellen’s video, a spoof that tells the truth!

Ellen explains: “I teamed up with well-known comedic writer and talent, Rachel Bloom, along with my wonderful son, songwriter and producer, Jack, to make this hilarious video educating the sisterhood on perimenopause and menopause!”

“Jack helped me find my voice,” Ellen writes. “He co-authored my book, Shmirshky: The Pursuit of Hormone Happiness, and he and Rachel Bloom created this incredible video for me!”

Ellen Dolgen and Jack

Thanks Jack!

Ellen Dolgen is an outspoken women’s health and wellness advocate, menopause awareness expert, author, and speaker.

After struggling through the silence that surrounds menopause, Ellen resolved to help women reach out and end the confusion, embarrassment, and less-than-lovely symptoms that come with “the change.” Her passion to be a “sister” to all women fueled Ellen’s book, Shmirshky: the pursuit of hormone happiness.

As a result of her women’s wellness journey, and in response to the overwhelming thirst of her ever-expanding audience for empowering information, Ellen’s weekly blog, Menopause MondaysTM was born.

Cancelled! You Heard it Here!





News flash!

Menopause is cancelled.

You heard if first on Friend for the Ride.

All those symptoms.


I got it straight from a Menopause Fairy.



And she got it directly from the Menopause Queen.

So toss your menopausal woes to the April winds!

The bad news is you will now be having your period for the rest of your life.


But your skin will glow,

Your bones won’t creak,

And you’ll sleep like you are sixteen.


Menopause is


No fooling!

I think, in some ways, I’m going to miss menopause.

What about you?

Bodyololgy: A Giveaway!


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A post by Kelly Burton of Bodyology:

A woman’s thirties is a special time. After the trauma and insecurity that plague our teens and twenties, we finally begin to solidify our sense of self and become more comfortable in our own bodies. Too bad, considering it’s the exact time our bodies begin to hate us!

Hate might be too strong a word, but it at least feels like a revolt. For many women, our thirties is the time we’re introduced to words like acid reflux… biopsy…fibroid…ovulation kit (what the heck’s an ovulation kit).My 30s made its grand entrance with a lovely little condition called thyroid disease.

After a slew of crazy symptoms which I casually ignored, I finally followed up on that enlarged thyroid my doctor had mentioned a year prior to learn I’d developed Grave’s Disease (to which several of my friends and family later told me ‘I knew that ’because apparently I looked so awful).

I was quickly put on medication which leveled out my thyroid and most of my symptoms. The only one that refused to leave was what I like to call, “the heat”.

No matter how hot or cold it was I would sweat, not just under my arms, but in my back, under my breasts and in “other” places I dare not mention on a public blog.

I know it’s generally believed that menopausal women are the only ones who have bouts with “the heat,”but just about any type of shift in body chemistry can result in excessive perspiration.

My job required I do a lot of public speaking, and I couldn’t even concentrate for fear of sweating through my clothes. I needed something to wear under my clothing to keep me from sweating clear through them. I’m a social scientist by profession, so I decided to go where I go for all my deep, probing research – Google!

What I found was a whole bunch of nothing.

While there were a few undergarment lines dedicated to sweat, the styles were unflattering and the options limited. I then went to the department stores, and again, no luck. Therefore, I ultimately decided to start my own intimate apparel line called Bodyology.

Bodyology is a six-style (3 tops and 3 bottoms) moisture management apparel line designed to protect women’s clothes from sweat.

Our products infuse wicking and anti-bacterial technology, which facilitate the drying process while reducing odor.

We’ve paid special attention to the design of our garments, wanting to ensure that they not only work, but make women look and feel amazing while doing it. To learn more about Bodyology, visit www.bodyologywear.com.

We officially launched in January and it has been an interesting experience. Perhaps the most gratifying part of it all is that women constantly approach me, whispering softly…”Oh my God, I sweat too”. To which I simply reply, “Welcome to the other side of womanhood.”

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Giveaway! Bodyology, the first full-body women’s moisture management intimate apparel line is offering one lucky winner The Cosmo – their popular scoop neck undershirt. The top comes in black or tan. To enter, please leave a comment by April 25 saying why you think Bodyology might be helpful for you. Contest is open to U.S. and international readers.  Thanks, Kelly and Bodyology!  (To find where to click on comments, go to the very bottom of the post.)


Kelly Burton, PhD is a social scientist and experienced entrepreneur.  While growing her successful research consulting firm in Atlanta, Ga, she developed thyroid disease which caused her to experience persistent sweats. After being unable to find modern, feminine garments that she could wear beneath her clothes, Kelly created Bodyology – the first full-body intimate apparel line dedicated to protecting women’s clothes from sweat.  To learn more about Bodyology, visit www.bodyologywear.com.