Election Special: For You, Baby Emmie!



I’m dedicating my vote to my brand new granddaughter, Emerson Grace, who came into our world just three weeks ago.

My grandmas were born in an America where women weren’t allowed to vote.

This grandma grew up in an America where all presidential candidates were men.

So we have indeed come a long way, Baby (Emmie!)

Some day I’ll explain to you how women fought for the world you now have. But I suspect, like your mama Laura and your aunt Katherine, you will only listen with half an ear. You’ll be too busy forging your own path in life.


May that path be festooned with love and vibrancy and intellect and giving and courage.

Oh and the first time you get in trouble in school, I’ll tell you about getting in trouble at the poll in 2016. I tried to take a picture of my real ballot. Two officials came at me rather quickly. Turns out recording history is a no-go at election sites in North Carolina. (Hence, the sample ballot in the photo at the top.)

The Ladies Room Door Art Series: Part Twenty-nine



More doors!!

My daughter Kath snapped the lovely door above  at The Vine in New York City. Here’s the handwashing station below, shared by men and women.


I took this door at the Orchid Thai Restaurant in Montpelier, Vermont. I get a kick that the door has not one but TWO creative signs on it.


And then the words “Women” and “Ladies” at the very top. There’s no mistaking the men’s for the women’s room when you go for Thai food in Montpelier.

This is the unisex door at Bear Pond Books in Montpelier. Can someone interpret the French for us? Does it mean you can only go in for five minutes? And what do they mean by “Lecture Toleree?”


I found this butterfly perching on a bathroom door at the North Branch Cafe in Montpelier.


This lady graces the door at the Corner Cafe in Montepelier. I assume she’s got some age on her.


And I love this unisex sign at the Down Home Kitchen in Montpelier


The reversible bathroom sign, a first for me, in the dorm at Vermont College of Fine Arts in Montepelier, where I got my MFA in Writing ten years ago. I was back for a reunion and conference. Really hit it on doors that week!


When men are occupying that section of the dorm, they simple slide the sign. Very clever!


From reader Susan: “This is at FitnessXT, where I take kettlebell classes twice a week. I had a bone scan done a few years ago (surgical menopause had started a couple of years before that), and it showed I had osteoporosis. I started kettlebell classes, yoga class, and am taking a few supplements. A bone scan two years later showed an 11% improvement in my bones.”  Thanks Susan! Kettlebell sounds like fun.

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From Jan, two signs at a coffee shop in Carolina Beach, North Carolina.


Jan noted the lock on the outside of the door. Kinda creepy… (and the sign is definitely to the point).



From Jan, the Five Loaves Restaurant in Summerville, South Carolina.


Now Jan’s sister is into the game! Thank you, Nancy W., for sending this way cool door from Crabby Mike’s Restaurant in South Myrtle Beach, South Carolina.


And that wraps up another edition of our Ladies Room Door Art Series. Thank you, one and all!

Bones! Happy Halloween from the Bone Church



On our recent trip to Kutna Hora in the Czeck Republic, Cliff and I visited the Bone Church, officially known as the Sedlec Ossuary. Soil was brought to the graveyard from the Holy Land in the thirteenth century, and the Sedlec Ossuary became the preferred burial spot for 40,000 souls. That’s a lot of bodies, meaning soon enough, that’s a lot of bones.

In 1870, a woodcarver named František Rint was hired to arrange the bones artistically. Talk about a ghoulish liturgical challenge.

I had no clue what to expect as our group approached the church. Bring on the creepy music!



The church is dimly lit, but those bones are white (or close to white). They show up. And they’re everywhere!

Crosses, pillars, garlands, stacks, and sculptures.





You wonder what this cherub thinks, spending his or her days among the decorating dead.


The intended message for those who visited this sacred place was: Watch your step on Earth because soon you will die and meet your maker.

One member of our group found the place to be disrespectful. She eyed those dry bones and left pretty quickly. Fair enough.

But I was enchanted. In fact, I was  so enchanted that I bought a t-shirt. My shirt reminds me to appreciate my days. Memento mori. Remember you will die.


And on October 31, while I’m remembering, I’m going to indulge in a few of the Snickers bars and KitKats that Cliff bought for trick-or-treaters. You indulge too. Life is short.

Happy Halloween!

May your bones be rattled with spooky fun.

To read more about the Bone Church, click here.

Don’t miss this link to 13 of the Scariest Places on Earth (including the Bone Church).

And to bring this spooky post back to menopause, check out menopause expert Ellen Dolgen’s latest article on bone health.

SYLK: A Personal Lubricant (and Giveaway!)




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