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Menopause: Hello Blank Stare

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 A post by Jennifer Delabar

I want to thank Barbara for inviting me to share my tale of woe about menopause.

What can I tell you about menopause that you don’t already know? My story, I’m sure, is a common one. It started with my missing a period here and there starting around age 40 (when my gynecologist advised me that I was just “getting old”), to the present day, when I’m 48 and not too happy with Mother Nature.

I’m too young to be in menopause” I kept expressing to anyone who would listen! I was under the mistaken belief that only women over 50 had to think about menopause.

No one can prepare you for what happens to you when your period finally stops coming. You actually miss those horrible cramps, ruined underpinnings, Dorito binges and black rage weeks. At least with the menstrual cycle there was an end in sight. With menopause there is no hormonal drop at the end of the cycle. It’s crazy-time all the time.

I had gone to my mother as most of us do, for some answers. She told me “I don’t remember going through it”. Thanks, mom.

Back to square one. I was desperate to talk to someone about what was happening in my life. I would be in line at the bank or the grocery store, beads of sweat forming on my forehead and under my eyes, and look at the person behind me and say, “They should really turn up the air conditioning; it’s so warm in here.” Hello blank stare. It was January.

Garage sales were always a big draw for me. Lots of people milling around, there must be other menopausal women there that could commiserate with me! But the only comment I ever received was a disheartening “Oh yeah the hot flashes never go away.”

So alone with nowhere to turn! It’s been three years and countless buckets of sweat have escaped from my pores since my last period. I no longer look for answers from strangers. I have found that most women don’t want to talk about it. We are like a secret society that no one wants to belong to!

I tried to talk to my friends about menopause.They were still getting their periods, and they couldn’t understand what I was going through. They didn’t know how to respond. I could feel their fear and pity looking back at me. Secretly in my evil menopausal brain, I couldn’t wait until they entered menopause and then they would come crawling to me, looking desperately for the answers to those “why” questions.

Why so many hot flashes, why the crying without cause, the depression, why the loss of a sex drive, why the loss of feeling feminine?

I will look at them lovingly and say “I don’t remember.”

Jenifer Delabar is the divorced mother of one awesome son, who is 22 years old. She’s a student of Buddhism. She lives on Long Island and works as a legal secretary and has a degree in funeral service.  Jennifer loves to read, learn, practice yoga and never stops asking questions.

From Barbara: I too, found that many women either didn’t remember menopause or didn’t have much to say when I asked them. That’s why I started this blog. I thank all of you for chiming in with your own experiences!

Relief from Hot Flashes: A Book Giveaway

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 Hot off the press!

Relief from Hot Flashes: The natural, drug-free program to reduce hot flashes, improve sleep, and ease stress

Here’s what the publisher, Demos Health, has to say:

Whether going through menopause or suffering from the side effects of breast cancer treatment, hot flashes are an uncomfortable and often embarrassing aspect of over 25 million women’s lives. Based upon a decade of his own research and proven to reduce hot flashes by 80% on average, Dr. Gary Elkins is finally offering his revolutionary, step-by-step, 5-week hypnotic relaxation therapy program to the public.

How do patients describe Dr. Elkins’ hypnotic relaxation therapy program?

“It’s like a spa. It’s wonderful…It’s my “me” time. Sometimes I have trouble calling it hypnosis because [it’s] just helping us relax our bodies…helping you get control over your own body.”—Sally, program participant

“Control is the key thing. You can control your body, your temperature, your attitude, anything, you can control it… You don’t have to go through a hot flash. You can actually stop it and make it go away.” —Linda, program participant

With five accompanying audio recordings to guide readers through relaxation practice, Relief from Hot Flashes is a new and innovative program, emphasizing deep relaxation, which will help every woman overcome hot flashes without the potentially harmful side effects of hormone treatment, including:

•A personal hot flash diary to track frequency, severity, and daily triggers of hot flashes

•Questionnaires and forms to help rate and improve quality of sleep

•10 Essential steps to successful practice of hypnotic relaxation for hot flashes

•How to relieve other symptoms of menopause and improve your mood, relationships, and quality of life

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Giveaway: For a chance to win a copy of Relief from Hot Flashes, simply enter a comment by October 15 saying you’d like to be the winner. U.S. and Canada only, thanks!

MenopauseMop: A Giveaway!

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A menopause mop!

How cool is that?

Created by three Hot Flash Sistas!

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This is how they describe their innovative mop:

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Read the testimonials here!

Check out the colors and designs here.

Giveway: The Hot Flash Sistas are offering a mop to TWO Friend for the Ride readers. Simply enter a comment by September 1 saying that you’d like to be a winner. U.S and Canada only. Thanks, Sistas!

Estroven’s Summer Giveaway! Keep Cool!

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Estroven is offering one Friend for the Ride reader their summer giveaway!

They wrote to us:

Menopause is already a tumultuous time for nearly half of women in the United States, and between hot flashes and night sweats, it can seem like an uphill battle to beat the heat: especially in the summer.

As the temperature rises, so do the number of beach days, and for these women, a trip to the beach could feel like a trip to the sauna.

This season, Estroven®, the safe multi-symptom menopause relief supplement, is helping women ditch the discomfort associated with menopause so they can feel good about bathing suit season, with “Beat the Heat with Estroven” Summer Survival Kits.

The kit includes a 50 ml. spray bottle, an ice sphere mold (perfect for fruit-infused refreshments), beach towels, sunscreen, a water bottle and a sample of Estroven’s newest product, Estroven Weight Management which helps provide relief for hot flashes, plus helps women manage their weight.*

For a chance to win, simply enter a comment by July 10. Sometimes, readers have trouble finding the link to comments. It’s at the bottom of the post, right here:

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Thanks, Estroven! Neat kit. Love the colors!

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