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Menopause: Hello Blank Stare

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 A post by Jennifer Delabar

I want to thank Barbara for inviting me to share my tale of woe about menopause.

What can I tell you about menopause that you don’t already know? My story, I’m sure, is a common one. It started with my missing a period here and there starting around age 40 (when my gynecologist advised me that I was just “getting old”), to the present day, when I’m 48 and not too happy with Mother Nature.

I’m too young to be in menopause” I kept expressing to anyone who would listen! I was under the mistaken belief that only women over 50 had to think about menopause.

No one can prepare you for what happens to you when your period finally stops coming. You actually miss those horrible cramps, ruined underpinnings, Dorito binges and black rage weeks. At least with the menstrual cycle there was an end in sight. With menopause there is no hormonal drop at the end of the cycle. It’s crazy-time all the time.

I had gone to my mother as most of us do, for some answers. She told me “I don’t remember going through it”. Thanks, mom.

Back to square one. I was desperate to talk to someone about what was happening in my life. I would be in line at the bank or the grocery store, beads of sweat forming on my forehead and under my eyes, and look at the person behind me and say, “They should really turn up the air conditioning; it’s so warm in here.” Hello blank stare. It was January.

Garage sales were always a big draw for me. Lots of people milling around, there must be other menopausal women there that could commiserate with me! But the only comment I ever received was a disheartening “Oh yeah the hot flashes never go away.”

So alone with nowhere to turn! It’s been three years and countless buckets of sweat have escaped from my pores since my last period. I no longer look for answers from strangers. I have found that most women don’t want to talk about it. We are like a secret society that no one wants to belong to!

I tried to talk to my friends about menopause.They were still getting their periods, and they couldn’t understand what I was going through. They didn’t know how to respond. I could feel their fear and pity looking back at me. Secretly in my evil menopausal brain, I couldn’t wait until they entered menopause and then they would come crawling to me, looking desperately for the answers to those “why” questions.

Why so many hot flashes, why the crying without cause, the depression, why the loss of a sex drive, why the loss of feeling feminine?

I will look at them lovingly and say “I don’t remember.”

Jenifer Delabar is the divorced mother of one awesome son, who is 22 years old. She’s a student of Buddhism. She lives on Long Island and works as a legal secretary and has a degree in funeral service.  Jennifer loves to read, learn, practice yoga and never stops asking questions.

From Barbara: I too, found that many women either didn’t remember menopause or didn’t have much to say when I asked them. That’s why I started this blog. I thank all of you for chiming in with your own experiences!

Happy Menopause Awareness Month!

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September! Do you believe it? We’re more than halfway through.

But while you’re thinking about fall sweaters or football (love it/hate it) or apples, apples, apples, pause to remember that September is National Menopause Awareness Month. That Silent Passage isn’t so silent anymore.

The Hormone Health Network designed the fun bra graphic above. (Here are some of my thoughts on droop and The Girls.)

The network’s Menopause Map helps you determine where you are in the menopause journey.  Check it out here.

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Click here to read their comprehensive guide to menopause. Don’t miss this excellent resource.

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Thank you Hormone Health Network!

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And no matter where you are on the menopause road, Happy Menopause Awareness Month!

I’m always looking for guest posts, especially posts about menopause. Please email me (address at right) if you’d like to write one.  Let’s share our stories! For as Todd Stocker tells us, “Stories give color to black and white information.”

Giveaway Winners! I’ve been lax this summer about posting the names of giveaway winners, but here’s the latest list. Congrats to Kay Lynn and Jo, who won Menopause Mops; Stephanie who won Susan Gabriel’s Fearless Writing for Women; and to Audrey, who won an Affirmation Card Deck and print from Marylou Falstreau.

Cancelled! You Heard it Here!

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News flash!

Menopause is cancelled.

You heard if first on Friend for the Ride.

All those symptoms.

Gone.

I got it straight from a Menopause Fairy.

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And she got it directly from the Menopause Queen.

So toss your menopausal woes to the April winds!

The bad news is you will now be having your period for the rest of your life.

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But your skin will glow,

Your bones won’t creak,

And you’ll sleep like you are sixteen.

Yep.

Menopause is

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No fooling!

I think, in some ways, I’m going to miss menopause.

What about you?

Encountering the Seven Dwarves of Menopause

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Seven-Dwarfs-of-MenopauseA post by wellness nurse Mary Buchan:

You are hot and itchy and you want to punch people. You laughed and some pee came out. You are exhausted. You cry at the drop of a hat. You can’t sleep, and you have no idea what you were looking for in the closet. You haven’t had a period in a year.

You desire a romantic encounter, but you feel so…dry. And you’re not really feeling very sexy anyway. It’s painful to admit that your body is increasingly becoming bloated, despite your best efforts to stick to your eating plan and exercise protocol.

My friend, it’s no mystery, you’re just under the spell of the seven evil dwarves of menopause. Once upon a time they were the adorable seven little guys who helped Snow White escape from the curse of her wicked stepmother, but now they’ve mutated into gremlins on a mission to haunt the midlife woman.

So instead of thinking of them in terms of Snow White, maybe “Invasion of the Body Snatchers” would be a better fit.

These seven dwarves are hideous, sinister beings whose names are Itchy, Bitchy, Leaky, Sleepy, Sweaty, Weepy, and, of course, Forgetful. And hi ho, hi ho, it’s off to work they go…

These dwarves of menopause have been described by Suzanne Somers in her book, The Sexy Years, but she’s only one of the many midlife women who’ve had their own encounters with these tiny tormentors.

Let’s take a closer look at each of these devilish dwarves and offer some advice about how to handle them.

Itchy is heckling you because your entire body is losing moisture, not only in your skin, but also in your eyes and even your vagina.

Bitchy makes your mood shift all over the spectrum, often causing you to overreact to minor irritants and seem a little crazy.

Leaky latches himself onto gravity and your aging process, making it very easy leak pee at inopportune moments, like when you laugh, cough or sneeze. This can also lead to urinary tract infections.

Sweaty brings hot flashes and night sweats. You might wake up in the morning feeling like you’ve just left the gym after a high-intensity cardio workout.

Sleepy makes his presence known when you’re unable to sleep through the night, sometimes because you’re feeling overheated.

Weepy causes you to cry hysterically for no good reason, simply because your hormones are out of whack and your emotions are all over the place.

Forgetful comes in the form of a foggy brain. If I remember correctly, studies show that this will pass once you get past menopause.

Stay tuned, and in the next post, I’ll share some steps you can take to get these diabolical dwarfs under control—so you really can live Happily Ever After.

Mary Buchan has spent the past 30 years as a wife, mother, registered nurse and singer/songwriter.  In 2012 she re-purposed her nurse’s cap to start her own coaching practice with a focus on life reinvention. Mary is also a blogger and the author of the soon to be released book  Over It: How To Live Above Your Circumstances and Beyond Yourself ( Spark Publications).

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Check out Mary’s website, where you can also find her blog:   http://marybuchan.com/

 Grammar Tidbit: When I loaded Mary’s post onto my blog, I saw the word “dwarves” come up in spellcheck. A little grammatical investigation led to this fun answer, linked to our Hobbit friend, J.R. Tolkien.