Grandma Update: Dressing for a Man



“I like your zebras!” a guy called out as I strolled down the sidewalk a few weeks ago. Men don’t usually shout out compliments on my clothes, so this put some spring in my step, especially since I had just purchased my zebra top.

But actually, I don’t dress for men these days. Nope. I dress for one man, a small one, my grandson Mazen.

At age one, Maze was intrigued with chickens. “Buck, buck!” (for “cluck, cluck”) was one of his first words. He knew a chicken when he saw one, and one day spotted two of them on my Friend for the Ride t-shirt ( which features Cliff’s childhood egg cups).


That spurred me on. I’ve added bumblebees, zebras,  lion, and giraffes to my wardrobe. I never knew dressing for a man could be this fun.

And since I have daughters (and because Cliff refuses to let me pick out his clothes), I never knew shopping for a man could be this fun! I look for animals and trucks/cars/trackers in 4 T. The shark shirt below was the hit of the summer.


Speaking of dressing for men, my gut says I’ve mostly dressed for other women over the  years. Women seem to be the ones to notice clothes and compliment them. But I must say, when a man says something pleasant about my outfit, I take extra note. What about you? Do you dress for yourself? Other women?  Men?

Check out this article, which says that few women really dress for men, since to a man, the less clothes on a woman the better. Any men out there? Agree?

The Ladies Room Door Art Series: Part Fourteen



More doors!

Above, a faux chalk door at La Place, a restaurant not far from my house.

Below, a lovely silhouette in the lobby of The Queechee Inn in Queechee Vermont. We traveled to green and beautiful Vermont in June for the wedding of a family friend.


And this sign at the Burlington Town Center in Vermont gets the prize for prettiest mall bathroom door.


A carved wooden sign at the Queechee Gorge Village, a series of antique and other shops.


The Circle K where we stopped for gas in Ossipee, New Hampshire.


The Ice House in New Castle, New Hampshire.


This gentle giant gazes at you when you sit on the pot at the Ice House.


The very elegant door at Wentworth by the Sea in New Castle, New Hampshire.


From my friend Justin, who teaches English in China. This unisex sign hangs outside the art museum in Ningbo.


From reader Candace, who found this sign at a dive bar in Charlestown, South Carolina. Neither she nor her husband can remember the name of the bar. Sounds like they had a pretty good time!

Seafood dive bar Georgetown SC


Candace snapped this a way cool fish made of liquor labels.

dive bar Georgetown SC fish made from liquor bottle labels

And she found this door at Jalapenos in Annapolis, Maryland.

Jalapeno's Annapolis MD

Brand new friend and blog reader Greta poses outside a ladies room in Amsterdam.


From Lilly, a photo snapped at The Strand in Galveston, Texas.


And I found this one at Old Town, San Diego.


As I stood in front of the ladies room at Maggiano’s at Southpoint Mall in Durham, North Carolina, a woman said, “You must being doing something arty.” I explained that I photograph interesting ladies room doors for my blog. “I like this bumpy glass,” I told her.


On the way out she said, “Why don’t you take the back of the door too?” So I did!


What an amazing world! Art abounds, even in bathrooms, if you keep your eyes open for it. May you find today the ladies room door of your dreams (and snap a photo for me). Thanks!

Giveaway Winners: Here’s the latest list:

Sue won Dr. Paul Lam’s Born Strong: From Surviving the Great Famine to Teaching Tai Chi to Millions.

Stephanie won Carol E. Wyer’s Grumpy Old Menopause.

Barbara won Uno, a celebration of games on George Schalter’s post.

Shirley, Beth, Vickie, and Sandy won a trio of Lubrigyn products.

Happy Fourth Birthday to Friend for the Ride!



Happy Fourth Birthday to Friend for the Ride! Thanks to readers old and new for your enthusiasm and your kind words!

Because he’s a lot cuter than I am, I present the celebratory photo above of my grandson Maze blowing out the candles on his third birthday cake (some candles are hidden in front of the flowers). The blog is one year older than Maze!

Here’s my very first post: The Roller Coaster Ride.

Rollercoaster going through loop

Here’s one of my happiest posts: The Baby Is Here.


And another: Final Update: The Wedding.


A bittersweet post and perhaps some of my strongest writing: Losing Mom: a Life in the Details.


And one of my quirkiest (or grittiest) posts: The Museum of Menstruation, Oh My. Menopause springs surprises on you. Never in a zillion months of periods would I have thought I’d talk about them online, much less post such a distasteful picture!


Thanks to all of you who have sent me guest posts over the years. Here’s the very first guest post, written by my good friend across the street, Susan Bellinger: Creative Procrastination: Try It. You’ll Like it.


Thanks to my literary agent, Erzsi Deak, for encouraging me to create an online menopause presence. I love her advice: “Make everyone want to go through menopause so they will buy this book” (my book–yet to find a publisher).


And thanks to my husband Cliff, Pickle Counting King, for snapping so many ladies room doors when I leave my phone at home.


To finish this birthday post, I’m pretending I’m Miss Nancy on Romper Room.

Miss Nancy

I’m peering through my magic glass at all of you and saying, “Thanks to Carol and Judy and Susan and Gail and Michele and Sue and Phyllis and Marylou and Vickie and Karoline and Cheryl and Stephanie and Shirley and Pam and Erzsi and Ann and Sirena and Miriam and Haralee and Amy and Vickie and Beth and Bernie and Ed and James and Cliff (yes, men!) and Kathy and Cathy and Suzanne and Judith and Patti and Lisa and Wanda and JoAnn and Linda and Kath and Laura and Candace and Janet and Nancy and Rebecca and Teresa and Barbara and Penny and Wendy and Adela and Carla and and Brenda and Greta and Theresa and Heartpeace and Diane and Silvia and Joan and Rena and Ruthie and Mo and Chris and Cindy and Claritza and Bonnie and Jama and Debbie and Becky and Cyn and Elaina and and Andrea and Bonnie and Meg and Sharon and Kimberly and Sandy and Ruth and Edna and Chickie and Crystal and Ellen and Paula.”

If I didn’t write your name, let me know, and I’ll add it! Love each and every one of you.

Romper Room: Here’s the history of my first favorite TV show, which originated in my hometown of Baltimore.

Paid Focus Group Opportunity for Post-menopausal Women


Senior woman on country bike ride

An announcement from Focus Pointe Global. I’m hoping some of my readers will be interested in participating!

Did you know that going through menopause can actually help you earn money?

Many marketing research companies, such as Focus Pointe Global, are looking for post-menopausal women for their opinions on medications, advertisements, and other products. Focus Pointe Global is a national marketing research company with 18 locations across the country that conducts focus groups, online surveys, product tests and more. They have an interactive website for their panel members at, where you can register and fill out your personal profile. Participating in a focus group or product test is a fun and easy way to earn some extra spending money – from $75 to $300 for only a couple of hours of your time.

Currently, we are looking for women between the ages of 45 and 74 who are using Forteo for a Paid Focus Group. There are several discussion groups that are taking place during the week of September 28th in Chicago, IL and Bala Cynwyd, PA.


This will take up just 1 hour of your time, and you will walk out with $100 in your pocket. If you are located in one of these areas and interested, we invite you to take a questionnaire to see if you are eligible by clicking one of the studies below:

Bala Cynwyd location

Chicago Location-

If you have any further questions regarding this study please email

If you don’t qualify but know someone in Chicago or Philadelphia who might, please forward the link. Thanks!


I received compensation from Focus Pointe Global for posting this announcement. I support research studies!